Fathers and Sons: A Remarkable Relationship |
There are ways fathers and sons can help each other be their best, Elder M. Russell Ballard of the Quorum of the twelve said during the. Fathers and Sons: A Remarkable Relationship. M. Russell Ballard | October This talk by Elder Ballard focuses on how to get fathers and sons talking to each other and why the relationship between fathers and sons is.  In Elder M. Russell Ballard's talk, “Fathers and Sons: A Remarkable Relationship,” he makes a strong point about fathers listening to their returned.
And then I want to give you fathers three suggestions about relating to and communicating with your sons. To you Aaronic Priesthood holders, I believe that by doing these three simple things you can make your relationship with your father even better than it is right now.
First, trust your father.
Elder M. Russell Ballard: Fathers and sons: a remarkable relationship
So talk to him. Share your thoughts and feelings, your dreams and your fears. The more he knows about your life, the better chance he has to understand your concerns and to give you good counsel.
When you put your trust in your dad, he will feel the responsibility of that trust and try harder than ever to understand and to help. As your father, he is entitled to inspiration on your behalf. His advice to you will be the heartfelt expressions of someone who knows and loves you. Your dad wants more than anything for you to be happy and successful, so why would you not want to trust someone like that?
Boys, trust your dad. Ask about his job, his interests, his goals. How did he decide to do the work that he does? What was he like when he was your age?
How did he meet your mother? And as you learn more about him, you may find that his experiences help you to better understand why he responds the way that he does. Watch how he treats your mother. Watch how he performs his Church callings.
Watch how he interacts with other people. You will be surprised what you learn about him just by watching him and listening to him. Your love, admiration, and understanding will increase by what you learn.
And third, ask your father for advice. Ask for his advice on Church activity, on classes, on friends, on school, on dating, on sports or other hobbies. Ask for his counsel on your Church assignments, on preparing for your mission, on decisions or choices you have to make.
Fathers and Sons: A Remarkable Relationship - M. Russell Ballard
In my experience, fathers who are asked for advice try harder to give good, sound, useful counsel. By asking your father for advice, you not only receive the benefit of his input, but you also provide him with a little extra motivation to strive to be a better father and a better man. You will notice that there is some linkage between the three suggestions I am going to give you and the suggestions I just gave your sons. First, fathers, listen to your sons—really listen to them.
Ask the right kind of questions, and listen to what your sons have to say each time you have a few minutes together. Your sons live in a very different world from the one in which you grew up.
Find your own best way to connect. Some fathers like to take their sons fishing or to a sporting event. Others like to go on a quiet drive or work side by side in the yard.
Some find their sons enjoy conversations at night just before going to bed. Do whatever works best for you. A one-on-one relationship should be a routine part of your stewardship with your sons. Every father needs at least one focused, quality conversation with his sons every month during which they talk about specific things such as school, friends, feelings, video games, text messaging, worthiness, faith, and testimony.
And oh, how fathers need to listen. Remember, conversation where you do 90 percent of the talking is not a conversation. Most of the time, the best thing you can do is just listen.
Fathers and Sons: A Remarkable Relationship
Fathers who listen more than they talk find that their sons share more about what is really going on in their lives. Dads, listen to your sons. Second, pray with and for your sons. Give them priesthood blessings. Occasions like the start of a new school year, a birthday, or as he begins to date may be opportune times to call upon the Lord to bless your son.
One-on-one prayer and the sharing of testimonies can draw you closer to each other as well as closer to the Lord. I am mindful that many of you fathers suffer heartache over sons who have strayed and are being captured by the world, just as Alma and Mosiah worried about their sons.
Continue to do all you can to maintain strong family relationships. Never give up, even when fervent prayer in their behalf is all you can do.
These precious sons of yours are your sons forever! Fathers, pray with and bless your sons. It is a visual reminder of two of the most powerful elements of our theology: Everything in the restored gospel of Jesus Christ, including the ordinances of the holy temple, is focused on the possibilities of families becoming part of the eternal family of God.
We're all on a journey. Dads are a little further down the road, but none of us has yet arrived at our final destination. We are all in the process of becoming who we will one day be. Fathers, you are the primary model of manhood for your sons. You are their most meaningful mentor, and believe it or not, you are their hero in countless ways.
Your words and your example are a great influence on them.
And then I want to give you fathers three suggestions about relating to and communication with your sons. First, trust your father. Your dad wants more than anything for you to be happy and successful, so why would you not want to trust someone like that? Second, take an interest in your father's life. Ask about his job, his interests, his goals. How did he decide to do the work he does? What was he like when he was your age? How did he meet your mother? Third, ask your father for advice.
Ask for his advice on Church activity, on classes, on friends, on school, on dating, on sports or other hobbies.